As a Californian, I think that changes occur as in one of our frequent earthquakes, where the ground beneath me changes unpredictably. In this article you will learn how to your older dog to learn new trick. I've never been a big fan of change. It irritated me that things were exactly where I wanted them, bam! Everything would change!
When it comes hard and unexpected ...
I was also offended by the change that so badly and unexpectedly happened in my last year. After I retired, I laughed that my house was what I wanted it to be, with the best friends I had grown over the years, and in particular that my financial means were reconciled. Everything would go on like this. Do you remember 2008? I have just retired after 40 years of work. Millions of people, including myself, could not do anything, but we tried to stay afloat when we saw that our savings were shrinking, we lost homes and jobs, and our quality of life dropped. I finally had to admit that change is taking place and will take place for the rest of our lives.
There is a change that happens to us without our intervention, and a change that we choose consciously. When I decided to leave my wife, I knew things would change and I was ready to accept that change because I wanted my relationship with him to be strengthened and that's what happened. This is the change I did not choose, over time it surprised me and it was the hardest to accept.
I learned to curl and meditate.
However, with much thought and hard work over the years, I have learned to accept change and see it more and more as an opportunity to learn and grow. I do not like it, but at least I know that something good is usually associated with the associated discomfort. I learned to dress and meditate before moving on to the next step, which is a change.
As an adult adult, I've become (not laughing!), I'm treating change now as a boo, and you can too.
Here is my recipe for dealing with change:
1) Be surprised by the change, whatever it is.
2) Yelling and screaming and hitting.
3) Look for a suitable source:
- friend, therapist or spouse (if you agree with him)
- No food, drink or anyone else can not give you what you need.
This includes people who probably say, "Shut up, it's not that bad".
4) Stay alone or with support in the comfort zone until you distract someone or something or until you urinate.
5) Try not to notice what's going wrong with the change, but for the benefits, you get:
- Remember, when one door closes, another opens and
- You can not leave room for the new unless you let go of the old man.
But what about dramatic changes?
"Well, it sounds like a fantasy, but you can not speak of a change as dramatic as losing a friend or loved one," you say. But it is me. My husband died two years ago and I was a disaster. I cried until I got sick. Almost from the beginning of this devastating loss, I promised to remain open and present. I thought that if I did not go through the process with conscience and openness, I would cry until I fell sick a year later. There were things I should have done and not to do to be there. However, there is no perfection in how we respond to losses and changes. I wanted to feel the loss, to experience all the accompanying changes and to celebrate my relationship with him. Honestly, I feel that I have done it very well for myself and to honor his memory and all the wonderful ways in which he found himself. Yes, I still miss him and I have watery eyes, but at the same time I realize that the good has flowed on in my life since his death.
Change does not pretend to be simple, and I'm sure that if you do not do it regularly, it will become more difficult and problematic later on. Remember that change management is yours. Are you the dog who can learn and change new things no matter how old you are? Or are you so rooted where you are when change comes, does it hit you in the ass?
Visit my blog, where you'll find this lesson on how to teach your older dog. You'll see some examples of things you can do today, right now, to teach this potentially life-saving skill to your dog.
Reference:
https://getfreedogtraining.com/who-says-you-cant-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/
